Do Not Marry into Problems

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Marriage to Non-Muslim
Woman with Children?

He's never been married, thinking about a non-religious, non-Muslim woman with kids (she's not even divorced from her husband) but he says "Please hurry"?


Should I marry a non-Muslims woman with children? (Never married before - Muslim) She is not divorced from husband by papers, but she has not had sex with ex for last 3 years. I think after a Muslim marries her then her marriage to kafar is finished. Right?

She is not religious but she might like Islam after she sees how nice it is. Her children might be a Muslim too.

What should I do?
(please hurry with answers)


Your question asks about marriage to a non-Muslim woman with children, who is still legally married to someone else. Before we begin, it is important mention that it is only Allah who has all Knowledge. (Allahu 'Alim.)


Not a good idea.

Quran only permits marriage of believers to believers who are not already married. If she is a Muslim, a Christian or Jewish woman - and then only if she is a virgin (or never had sex outside of marriage and knows it is forbidden).

Please refer to the verses in Quran on this topic.

Surah Al-Maidah Chapter 5
It is made lawful today for you all kinds of halal food, which Allah has made lawful.
The food of the People of the Book (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them. (Lawful also in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given them their due mahr (dowry), desiring chastity not committing illegal sex, nor taking them as girl-friends.

4 - An-Nisa 25 And whoever of you have not the means wherewith to wed free, believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those (captives) whom your right hands possess, and Allah has full knowledge about your Faith, you are one from another.
Wed them with the permission of their own folk (guardians, Auliya' or masters) and give them their Mahr according to what is reasonable; they (the above said captive and slave-girls) should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boy-friends.
And after they have been taken in wedlock, if they commit illegal sexual intercourse, their punishment is half that for free (unmarried) women.
This is for him among you who is afraid of being harmed in his religion or in his body; but it is better for you that you practise self­restraint, and Allah is Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful.

If she accepts Islam, then all is forgiven of her past and she is pure as a virgin and a believer. Then you could marry her.

But if you are not in a Muslim country, then it is still not a good idea. If she left Islam or decided to divorce you or not raise children according to Islam, you would have to choice in the matter and the courts would rule against any wish you had for raising children according to Islam.

Advise: Stay away from this one.

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#1 cupcake 2014-09-02 08:48
WE ARE supposed to marry a women FOR her righteousness, not because she's white or attractive. read narration about a woman is married for FOUR things.
TOO many problems occur when spouses are not on the same page, such as dietary laws, inheritance,etc.
many of the people of the book commit shirk.
a believer is always better.
if MUSLIM men marry kitabi women where will the MUSLIMAHS go?

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