She Is A Proud Muslim!
She Loves Her Parents!
She's Married to a Hindu?
Is this a Problem?
Bismillah Rahman Raheem
Answer: Allahu 'Alim -
Salam alaykum sister,
Unfortunately, this is not about being proud of yourself or your culture or race or nationalism at all.
Even saying you are proud to be a Muslim woman does not mean you are necessarily following the Way of Islam, itself.
Everyone of us must choose to be a true Muslim, by following what Islam teaches.
The word "Muslim" comes from the root in Arabic, "Aslama" and that carries a number of meanings from English, because the English language does not have this word. So here are the principle meanings within the word "Muslim":
They are in total: Submission, Surrender, Obedience, Sincerity, Peace and Purity - with Allah in all matters and all final decisions rest with Allah.
Details on this topic are found on our website at: www.WhatsIslam.com
This topic should not be about you getting married to a good, kind and loving man - who is a HINDU.
Allow me to share more than just my "feelings" about this topic and then at the end I would like to offer a very nice solution to the whole thing that would make everyone happy, inshallah.
Let me begin with a few very real facts from Islam, in the Quran, then make a few statements based on emotional and logical outcomes based on the available choices.
I do see your point about finding someone you feel comfortable with and want to make a life with. The problem is, it is not acceptable to Allah. He does not consider what you have as a true marriage, due to it not being within what He has prescribed in His Book.
You may see this man as something very good, especially to you. But have you thought about this, the man does not believe in Allah, as One and only One God. The man does not believe in Adam, Ibrahim, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be on them, as prophets. He does not love Allah. He cannot enter Jennah. You cannot be with him in the Next Life.
Marriage to such a person will only end in a huge problem. The man would eventually challenge something from Allah's religion, and the woman would have to make a decision to leave him or stay without real Islam anymore.
Another problem would be the children. She would be intimidated by the man's family to allow the children to become their religion, or at least to allow these children to "choose for themselves". And that would be rejected by Allah on the part of the parents. The mother and father of a child are responsible for raising their children in the best way, as believers.
So what kind of relationship is this going to be anyway? You say you love him, but then you don't show much interest in what will happen to him after death. Does that make sense?
The fact is, men and women who are believers in Allah, can only marry other believers in Allah. This is according to Allah's Speech (Quran) to all of us.
Take a look for yourself --
And whoever denies the faith – their work has become worthless, and they, are in the Hereafter, among the losers.
Surah Baqarah, (the Cow) chapter 2, verse 221
Surah Al Mumtahinah (the Woman Examined), chapter 60, verse 10
Let us consider some of the reasons for this, inshallah.
Number one, and absolutely the most important, is because Allah Subhannah wa Ta'ala has said so. And it is not up to us to even worry about the "WHY" when we have a very clear commandment from Allah telling us to do something or not to do something. The best reference from the Quran is in chapter 4, surah An-Nisaa', verse 65.
There can be no doubt after this verse, everything is hinged off of our belief and our actions together - not separate. Allah is swearing on Himself in this verse! How strong is that? He is saying we are NOT believers, if we see in Quran or hadeeth a Commandment from Allah and then we don't accept it whole heartily, with no discomfort or reservation in our hearts or minds.
Recall, if you will, the story of Adam in the Paradise and what it was that Allah said to Adam, telling him not to even approach or come near to the forbidden tree. He was not just ordered to avoid eating the fruit from it. He was ordered "STAY AWAY".
OK, now consider this, what was wrong with the tree? What was wrong with the fruit from the tree? Was it poison? Was it spoiled? Did Allah want it for some other purpose?
The answer is, "Who cares?" Allah gave an order, what are you doing, thinking and contemplating the reasons for the order, while you are sitting there eating the fruit?
How about this idea, you start taking a more serious look at your own religion and begin to really practice it as much as you can. Then if you see it for what it really is, you can share your findings with this man. Then if he likes what you are talking about and decides he does find this attractive, you help him come to the true Islam. Then both of you will be much better off in this life and in the Next Life.
Here is a nice video part one and two for you both to enjoy and see what it can do to help out:
Meantime, you are in big trouble with your family and with Allah Subhannah Wa Ta'ala. This needs to be corrected (ended) or you could destroy yourself and not help him either.
Oh, and by the way, according to Allah - this man is NOT your husband - Not in the sight of Almighty Allah. It is only adultery you are doing and calling it marriage to a Hindu.
Sister, we are praying for you and for this man to be rightly guided by Allah to the deen al-Haqq - Islam. Do your best and ask Allah to help you all.
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