Bismillah Rahman Raheem
The problem is we just sent my son who is 17 to a nice private school named(a famous school in a gulf country). But his teachers are telling him there is no god (astaghfirullah) and everything is just by accident. The philosophy teacher gave him questions about universe and life which are not right. And now he just sits there smiling when we talk to him about Allah and he doesn't even looking at us.
We just found out about this when he stopped doing prayers, and no more Quran. We want to know - what to say when he asks us about proof for God & Islam?
How do we connect with him?My son, is good boy and never makes me a problem, So can you please help?
Thank you for writing to us about this situation. We are seeing this more and more amongst the students attending classes and universities with teachers who have no belief in Almighty God.
If we are talking about Islam versus Judaism or Catholic religions, there are a number of common things and some differences about how we believe in Jesus and the original Bible. That is not too difficult to handle in most cases. However, the problem you have mentioned is very serious and not an easy on to fix. I have tried in the past to help converted atheists (former Muslims) see the truth of Islam, but the problem is the daily encounter with their non-believing instructors.
Most usually their attitude is one of being quite smug and condescending toward Islam - as they consider they 'know more about it than you do' and are not in any need of any religion or belief.
Let's keep in mind we are all in need of the Guidance of Allah. He alone is the Guide and whomever He guides will never be misguided and whomever He sends astray will never be guided, according to the Quran and the sunnah of the prophet, peace be upon him.
I have tried to help several families in your condition in the past. A few parents have listened and helped their kids get back to Islam.
After all, they had the truth, then rejected it and now if they come back, they should expect a life of serious difficulty due to their test being increased by Allah.
Who would want that type of promise for their future when they can (in their minds) simply say, "There is no god. So why worry about it?" and then just go on with their way with no hope for the after-life?
A little side note - the parents of these children will have to suffer the pain of watching them here - and then expect to be asked about this on the Day of Judgment.
This is the price that is extracted for trading the love of this world for the life of the Hereafter.
But there is hope - really!
Trying to simply argue and debate with your child at this point is nearly a waste of time. Allah is the only real Guide - not you and not me.
Here are some of the Questions People Ask About God (and the proper answers from Islam):
www.GodAllah.com [Look on the left side of the page]
For the answers to the philosophy and atheist views on science, use this:
If you want the child to have a proper relationship with Allah, then who do you need to be talking to? Me? (No) - Allah!
He can and He will, Guide whom He chooses - not whom you love (nor whom I love).
This is a very clear teaching of the Quran. However, there is something you can do - if you are really and truly serious with Allah.
If you can overcome the attachment of this life and really work toward getting close to Allah Subhannah wa Ta'ala, then things will change for the better all around you, inshallah. Devote 100% of your life back to Him - salat; charity; fasting; hajj; daw'ah.
Then maybe Allah will accept your petition and answer your request. But this means a lot of sacrifice, especially of time and energy from you.
Getting up early on Mondays and Thursdays to prepare for fasting (sunnah) and staying up in the night (qiyam layl), donating time to help the poor and needy and to clean the masjid - help the daw'ah.
All of these are things that can make a difference in your dua being accepted.
Do you want to continue with this train of thought?
Would you really like to put forth this effort?
This is a lifelong commitment and one that I personally made years ago to Allah in order to save my own children from the Fire.
It has meant a sincere effort on a daily basis without even one day off - but it is worth it when I look at the results and I do not regret the things of this dunyah that I sacrificed in order to be closer to Allah.
I do not have the chance to answer these emails in much detail very often - so please be patient when writing and keep in mind it is your communication with Allah that is most important anyway.
I am praying for you son and for you - and for all the Muslims who have neglected teaching Islam to their children while chasing after this world.
I ask Allah to guide you, guide him, guide me and guide us all, to all truth, ameen.
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