Women's Freedom - Or Free-dumb?
What is the comparison between "Man's Law" and "God's Law"?
Consider the following before you judge:
1. Western mentality today wants to prohibit women from covering their hair and faces (hijab)
2. The same society encourages women to exhibit their bare bodies (bikinis)
3. France promotes bare breasted women in public (Moulin Rouge in Paris)
4. The same country passed a law against women covering themselves in public (niqab, hijab)
5. Women are taught to accept their husband's last name as a sign of "belonging" to him (slavery?)
6. Muslim women who keep their father's name are considered "backward"
Who makes these rules and laws for women's Free-dumb?
(Not the women - that's for sure)
Now take a look at this article and then share it with a "liberated woman" (while you still can)...
Muslims are so eager to copy western society in every aspect without even considering the real impact it has on all of us, especially our women.
Muslims have adopted many of the western practices without any consideration for even the basics in Islamic Law. And among them is the practice of a woman changing her family name to that of her husband after she gets married.
The fact is that Islam does not require woman to change her name at marriage and there is nothing in the Sunnah to indicate that a woman should take her husbands name after she gets married.
Actually, the Ulama tell us that this is an innovated practice that is not approved of in Islam.
Now, I know some people will say Oh, come on, What is the big deal?
So read on and you will know what I mean.
The wives of the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) are the Mothers of the Believers, and the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam), is the noblest of people and the best example. And yet when we look at their example, we will realize that when the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) married any of his wives, NOT ONE of them took his name.
On the contrary, each one of them kept her fathers name even if her father was a kaafir (Non-muslim). Similarly, the wives of the Sahaabah and those who came after them did not change their names.
Did you ever think why they didnt do that?
Surely, if it was a good thing, the wives of the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) would have done it and the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) would himself have instructed it and encouraged them to do it. But NO. That is because it is Allaahs order to keep your fathers name as an indication of your lineage.
Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allah. [Al-Ahzaab 33:5]
And the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
"Whoever calls himself by other than his fathers name, will be cursed by Allah, the angels and all the people."
(Ibn Maajah -Saheeh by al-Albaani).
And Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) also said:
Whoever knowingly claims to belong to anyone other than his father, Paradise will be denied him
(Ahmad, al-Bukhaari, Muslim).
Now some might argue, But the woman is not claiming that her father is someone else. She is just honoring her husband or she doesnt mean it that way. She just wants to belong to her husband out of love for him. To those people I say.
If it was a matter of honor to have the husbands name attached to the wifes, wouldnt our Ummahaat have done that??
Isnt it the biggest honor in the WORLD to have the name of the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) attached to yours?? And yet the wives of the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) didnt do that.
Ever wonder why??
And if it was a matter of expressing love for the husband, no relationship between a husband and wife on the face of this earth was better than the relationship between the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) and his wives. And yet none of the Mothers of the Believers expressed their love for the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) by changing their last names.
It doesnt make any sense.
The last name is an indication of the father of the person and represents the persons lineage.
Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd said:
This is one of the beauties of Shareeah, because calling a person by his fathers name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart (Tasmiyat al-Mawlood, 30, 31).
Originally, the woman is the Daughter of so and so, and NOT the wife of so and so. Since there is no blood relationship between the husband and wife, how can she take his last name as if she is part of the same lineage?
And surely, she is not claiming that he is her father!!!!
Also what happens if she gets divorced, or her husband dies, and she marries another man? Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man?
In addition to this, there are rulings attached to the woman being named after her father, which have to do with her inheritance, spending and who is her Mahram, etc. Taking her husbands last name overlooks all that.
Also, if you think about it, the husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husbands father? This goes against common sense and true facts.
Besides, the husband has nothing that makes him better than his wifes father. So why should she give up her fathers name and take her husbands last name??
And why does the man get to keep his fathers name and not of the womans?
It just doesnt make any sense.
Sheikh Salih Al-Munajjid says:
A woman changing her family name to that of her husband after she gets married is Harraam and is not allowed in Shareeah, because it is not permissible for anyone to claim to belong to anyone other than his or her father, and Allah knows best
Not only is it so in this world but, we will also be called by our fathers name in the Hereafter as well.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
On the Day of Resurrection, each betrayer will have a banner raised beside him, and it will be said, this is the betrayer of so and so, the son of so and so
So, all you single females out there, dont be in such a hurry to change your maiden name after you get married. And those of you who have already done that, it is never too late. Take back your maiden name and reclaim your identity. It is part of the Shareeah.
And requesting you Males, please dont bother your wives to do so.
OK, so now, which is better? Man's law or God's Law (shar'iah)?
If you choose God's Law, then you are already more of a Muslim that you might think. Click the link below to find out why..
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For Muslim sisters who think western man-made laws are so cool - click the link below:
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