Sister Gives Khutbah But..

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Should Women Lead Salat? Give Khutbahs?
I degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not.. - and in all honesty - don' t want to be: a man. As women, we will never
reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men, and value the beauty in our own God-given distinctiveness.
(by sister Yasmin Mogahed)

On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud (a Muslim woman from Virginia) led the first female-led Jumuah (Friday) prayer. On that day women took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?

I don't think so.

What we so often forget is that God has honoured the woman by giving her value in relation to God-not in relation to men. But as western feminism erases God from the scene, there are no standard left-but men. As a result the western feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in so doing she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she becomes just like a man-the standard.

When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined the army, she wanted to join the army. She wanted these things for no other reason than because the 'standard' had it.

What she didn't recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness - not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslims made the very same mistake.

For 1400 years there has been a consensus of the scholars that men are to lead prayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads prayer is not spiritually superior in any way. Something is not better just because a man does it. And leading prayer is not better, just because it's leading. Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn't the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) have asked Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) or Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), or Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her) - the greatest women of all time - to lead? These women were promised heaven-and yet they never lead prayer.

But now for the first time in 1400 years, we look at a man leading prayer and we think, 'That's not fair.' We think so although God has given no special privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than the one who prays behind.

On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And God has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?

When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) replied 'your mother' three times before saying 'your father' only once. Isn't that sexist? No matter what a man does he will never be able to have the status of a mother.

And yet even when God honours us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it - or even notice. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, inferior. Being sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother - a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality (considered masculine) and self-less compassion (considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.

As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it - we want it too. If men pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the front rows too. If men lead prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we want to lead prayer too. Somewhere along the line we've accepted the notion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one's position with God.

A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn't need a man.

In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.

Fifty years ago, society told us that men were superior because they left the home to work in factories. We were mothers. And yet, we were told that it was women's liberation to abandon the raising of another human being in order to work on a machine. We accepted that working in a factory was superior to raising the foundation of society - just because a man did it.

Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman – the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker - and have the perfect career. And while there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men. We watched as our children became strangers and soon recognized the privilege we'd given up.

And so only now - given the choice - women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their children. According to the United States of America Department of Agriculture, only 31 percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more children, are working full-time. And of those working mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, found that 93% of them say they would rather be home with their kids, but are compelled to work due to 'financial obligations' . These 'obligations' are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West, and removed from women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.

It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a privilege given to Muslim women 1400 years ago.

Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not - and in all honesty - don' t want to be: a man. As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men, and value the beauty in our own God-given distinctiveness.

If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet - I choose heaven.


- By Yasmin Mogahed


Comments   

#8 reshma 2011-03-16 17:44
i am a muslim woman and i think if woman gives a khutbah that does not mean she wants to be a man. that is why i do think we should be able and should give khutbah.
#7 zee 2010-06-17 20:34
A highly logical and very well presented article... Masha Allah ... Sister Yasmin has well understood the Islamic concept - role of women and men are complimentary to each other ... and our main aim should be to get glorified in the sight of Allah and not the world, for the hereafter is more enduring ... unfortunately some of our sisters are getting deluded because of cultural influence of certain part of the world .. and that mainly roles of men have been glorified in public till now .. and the responsibility of it partly lies on the Muslim ummah ... our aim should be to bring to light great women contributors of Islam and also to give due respect to our women folks and the roles they are meant to perform according to Islam.
#6 Annie 2010-06-15 01:12
a very nice article...I have read it before also... its also on the website Islamonline.net with the title "Value of woman, Is man the standard?"
#5 Arshadh 2010-06-12 23:50
A wonderful article. Very necessary to address the present generation of Muslims who have fallen into the trap of shaytan by imitating the West in all walks, the worst of it is in Religious issues. May Allah protect us from the fitnah.
#4 taseer nongbri 2010-06-12 21:17
AS SALAM U ALIKUM
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE SISTER, NOT BECAUSE I M A MAN BUT AS FAITFUL MUSLIM,WE BOTH MEN AND WOMAN ARE TRYING TO CHALLENGE ALLAH'S COMMANDMENTS.
#3 Lutful Hasan 2010-06-12 10:40
She described it very well.
#2 anonymous 2010-06-12 07:05
why a woman has to lead the prayer? Aint men women's maintainers and protectors?
In fact why did that sister who gave jummah khutbah go to the Masjid, at all? Doesn't she know the b3St place for us women to offer salah is 'home'?
Tell her who lead Salah : Aim HIGH!!!!!!!!!!
#1 Ershad 2010-06-11 23:57
MashaAllah ;;;
Very Very nice ...
May Allah bless the writer and provide her with Jannah for this very analysis. Ameeen

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